Have you considered seeking
infertility support?

When plans for a baby aren't working out like you'd hoped, infertility support can be helpful and comforting during a difficult time.

infertility support for men and women

The definition of infertility is not conceiving after one year of actively trying to become pregnant. However once a female turns 35 years old this time period then reduces to six months. This term may also apply for those who've been unable to carry a pregnancy to full term.

Infertility affects approximately 10-25% of couples worldwide, making it relatively common. Statistics show that men and women are equally affected (physically).

Of course everyone's own story is unique. Many people presume when the time is right to conceive that it will happen easy enough, but unfortunately this isn't always the case. Have you only recently discovered an infertility issue and been left stunned, uncertain what your future will hold? Or diagnosed with a reproductive/medical condition in the past, and already struggled for what seems like ages? Suffered repeated miscarriages? Told you have unexplained infertility by doctors? Age a related complication? Whatever your reason is... infertility can be a major challenge for anyone!

If you're experiencing fertility problems of any sort, you don't need to deal with your situation alone! There are excellent support networks for men, women, and couples.

At the bottom of this page we've explained how to find an infertility support service near you - a few links are included.

The emotional aspect of infertility

Infertility is undoubtedly a very stressful situation both emotionally and physically. Emotions can vary greatly from day to day, or throughout the course of a day! Happy one moment then down the next. Negative feelings that are reported include – pressure to conceive, confusion, guilt, isolation, depression, anger, jealousy, despair, and failure. Some find this is especially tough if a friend becomes pregnant, or when around parents with their infants and/or young children. In severe cases social gatherings may become distressing.

Specialized treatments (for example IVF cycles) can be intimidating, plus they often put a financial strain on couples which doesn't help matters. Hopes are high with these procedures as they're usually performed after months, or more often years of unsuccessful attempts to conceive.

Males and females naturally think differently, therefore their reactions and coping strategies are usually rather contrasting. When facing infertility partners may not understand what the other is going through, resulting in a build up of tension.

How can infertility support help?

Various types of assistance are available, from peer-led infertility support groups, professionally led therapy sessions, individual or couples counseling. Even a reassuring voice at the end of a telephone helpline is occasionally beneficial. Support may also be able to help in the following ways -

  • Friendly environment to visit
  • Meet people going through similar experiences
  • Share thoughts and join discussions
  • Coping techniques for managing the daily stresses of infertility
  • Miscarriage/pregnancy loss support
  • Data, resources, and referrals
  • Self help topics e.g. healthy diet, avoiding toxins, relaxation tips
  • Look into holistic approaches, and complementary therapies
  • Be informed of up-to-date medical options, infertility treatments, involved costs
  • Information regarding sperm donors, egg/embryo donors, surrogacy, adoption
  • Hopefully make difficult decisions concerning your fertility less complicated
  • Cover the subject of how infertility affects couples
  • Communication skills and resolving conflict
  • Strengthen relationships

  • Explore the idea of living child free
  • Learn how to talk to friends and family about what you're going through
  • Methods on how to handle awkward questions or comments without getting upset e.g. the two of you aren't getting any younger, have you thought about starting a family soon?
  • Regain control of your life!

Finding infertility support

  1. If you want to try a support service ask your doctor or nurse for recommendations and/or a referral, as they should know what's available. In addition they can tell you about any alternative groups that may be suitable for your particular circumstance e.g. for endometriosis or PCOS.

  2. National associations offer guidance, practical advice, and can put you in touch with the appropriate contacts in your region. The Internet is a useful way to search for these – type in the name of your Country followed by infertility support. Associations list relevant details, names, telephone numbers, email addresses, locations etc.

  3. Community based infertility support groups may advertise in local newspapers.

  4. Numerous fertility clinics offer support/counseling for patients and their partners. Be sure to make inquiries before beginning any treatment program so that you,re well prepared.

  5. There are plenty of superb infertility books and e-books written by experts.

Links -

Resolve: The National Infertility Association (USA) - http://www.resolve.org/

IAAC: Infertility Awareness Association of Canada - http://www.iaac.ca/

Infertility Network UK - http://www.infertilitynetworkuk.com/

Remember that there are ways to cope, keep positive, and uncover solutions!

*Please note - There are a range of causes of infertility. It's essential to obtain a diagnosis from your personal physician or a specialist.

These claims have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.

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